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How to Avoid the Dating Text Trap

By Dontaira Terrell
Posted On Jan 28, 2016
How to Avoid the Dating Text Trap

In a society where texts, emoji’s, and abbreviations have taken over our daily lives, it’s fairly easy for thoughts to be misunderstood and words misinterpreted, especially when it comes to texting a potential love interest. If you want to succeed during this era of digital dating then you may have to adjust a few texting habits. Read on to take a look at some of my rules of the texting game during the dating phase.

Liquid Courage- At all costs, stay away from the late night drunken texts that you’ll probably regret the next day. Sharing your sober thoughts is better than drunken regrets. Wait until you’ve built up the fearlessness to speak in a sober state of mind.

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Candid Conversation- Pick up the phone, go out, have fun, and enjoy each other’s company! The best way to get to know someone on a more personal level is through verbal communication and physical interaction. Texting should not be used as a replacement for in-depth one-on-one conversations.

Lost in Translation- Never hide behind texts when trying to express your true emotions because often times, texts can be misconstrued. (Uh-oh!) This is especially true when it comes to important discussions that should take place candidly instead of through texting.

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Photo Credit: Shutter Stock

Emoji Overload- Ease up on sending a zillion emoticons,“LOL’s” or other acronyms throughout your conversation. Admit it, including too many of these elements is code red for, “FRIENDZONE.”

Text Frequency- Remember, it’s all about the chase so it’s OK to be a little unpredictable when it comes to text response time. Be consistent but not overbearing because you want to build up excitement not scare them away.

Dinner Date Manners- Texting while on a date is not only inconsiderate but it leaves the impression that you’re extremely uninterested and bored with your potential suitor. Therefore, if you’re out on a date, tuck your cell phone away!

Jumping to Conclusions– Overanalyzing or continuously dissecting every word will drive you insane! It’s easy to take things the wrong way during a text message exchange, if you’re unsure just ask the other person to clarify next time you’re face-to-face.

Keep It Short & Sweet- Put on your big girl boots and flirt just a little but always keep it cute (Wink wink). Ask light-hearted questions to maintain the spark and keep the conversation going.