Evelyn Lozada’s Highway to Happiness
Posted On May 10, 2016
Living your life underneath a microscope and being surrounded by public scrutiny is no easy feat. However, since bursting on the scene, Evelyn Lozada has successfully transitioned her reality television status into Hollywood star power. With accolades ranging from best-selling author to beauty entrepreneur, the mother of two has literally made “lemonade out of lemons.”
Not only has she thrived in the face of adversity, but she has also utilized unhealthy, toxic relationships within her past as a tool to facilitate growth in all realms and facets of her life. Fast-forward to present day and she continues to shine as the conqueror of her very own story by steadily building the blocks of success on her terms.
After chatting with Evelyn it was fervently obvious why her legions of fans have fallen in love with the New York native. She is bold, fearless, unapologetic, and above all else her authenticity is magnetic. With the second season of her hit show, Livin’ Lozada on the OWN network the cameras once again have fully captured Lozada’s inner essence as the family woman full of love, light, and loyalty. Ignoring critics and persevering is Evelyn’s mantra to cementing her familial legacy. Viewers are also privy to the transparency that this is not your ordinary show because it is deeper than a typical reality series by serving as a catalyst to deliver a positive message to the masses.
It showcases an unbreakable mother-daughter bond among Evelyn and her 22-year-old daughter Shaniece Hairston. As well as an eye-opening directive for both men and women that there is a light at the end of the tunnel within arm’s reach. Full of an abundance of blessings and endless opportunities but only if you are willing to forgive and let go of the past in order to to embrace the moment.
New You: With Mother’s Day drawing near do you have any parenting advice that you can offer future or first-time mothers? Evelyn Lozada: Being that my daughter Shaniece is 22-years-old, I will honestly speak not only from personal experience but also what I have learned from other moms that I regularly converse with. Often times parents are afraid or uneasy when the opportunity presents itself to sit down and have the uncomfortable conversations with their children. From day one I have always kept it 100 with Shaniece in order to create the foundation for us to have authentic, open, and honest discussions. I have never been one to sweep the candidness of communicating about topics such as the birds and the bees under the rug. I truly believe that is one of the many reasons why my daughter and I are extremely close. Not to mention, it has also contributed to her overall well-being of growing into a great young woman and not becoming a teenage mother as I was with her. With that being said, growing up I did not have real conversations about the birds and the bees, birth control, or things of that nature.
As a result, I took it upon myself to try and figure things out and obviously I didn’t quite figure it out especially if I became pregnant at such an early age. At the end of the day, one of the best pieces of advice I can offer to first time or future mothers is to communicate with your children on a regular basis especially about the uncomfortable topics. Even if you are cringing inside and would rather crawl in a hole somewhere (laughs). Seriously, it is all good, and it is going to be fine. I can definitely promise you that. If you take a step back and think about the situation at hand, you surely do not want your children to go to their friends for advice because as their mother you are going to give them the real deal. Another piece of advice worth mentioning that I have learned along the way is that when your children begin to develop into their own person allow them to just be themselves. NY: Let’s have a little fun. The next two questions you have to fill in the blank to complete the answer. You know you are a mother when ________? EL: You begin to worry about everything. That is definitely one of the transitions experienced after becoming a mother because you are very well in tune and aware of it all. On the other end of the spectrum, during the pre-kids stage, you are fearless and carefree.
Why didn’t anyone tell me __________ about motherhood? EL: That I would be exhausted! Maybe it is because I had my son later in life whereas I had my daughter much younger. It could be that I had a lot more energy because in a sense I was a kid having a kid. Truthfully, no one forewarned me that I would be walking around delirious and tired. Unfortunately, you will not find this out until your baby is at home not sleeping and you’re thinking to yourself, “what happened to my life!?” (laughs) With my son Leo, I was a zombie walking that didn’t know what was going on half of the time because I was very sleep deprived. NY: Speaking of your son, how has your fitness and wellness routine either evolved or changed since having him? EL: Although I do not get to work out as much as I would like to I am an active, hands-on mom, and I try my very best to eat healthily. And still, I don’t eat as clean as Shaniece does because she is on an entirely different level with her eating regimen.
NY: You are now in Season 2 of Livin’ Lozada, what has been your best moment shooting so far?
EL: Oh my goodness, I think just showing up and going to work with my daughter is so much fun. It is always great to work with her because we are the best of friends, and you never know what conversations we are going to have. One of the things I have always said and promised to myself when I decided to do reality television again is that I wanted the show to have a positive message where I can help people. With my series Livin’ Lozada, I am able to do just that! To answer your question, I would say that one of the best moments from this season was being able to connect with my brother in law who crossed over to the other side.
NY: Wow, that is powerful, and I definitely need to tune in and watch how it all unfolds. I lost my mother last year, and that is something that I have struggled with by trying to connect with her on a spiritual level since she is not physically here any longer.
EL: I do not want to give too much away because you will see it on the show but I honestly believe in the afterlife. I know that moment was real because the things mentioned during the meeting happened after he passed away. It was a surreal confirmation that allowed me the closure that I needed to know that he is and has always been with me watching over all of us every step of the way. I know your mom passed away but listen and believe me a thousand percent when I say she is watching you baby!
NY: You often speak about the transitional phases of your life and now at this very moment you feel everything is finally aligned the way it is supposed to be. In that regard, what would you consider your happiness secret?
EL: First and foremost, I decided to love, honor, and truly cherish myself because I was not doing that in previous years. I allowed men who I was in relationships with to treat me any type of way. Once I learned and began to truly understand that I knew I deserved better because God would not want me to be treated in such a way, is when things in my life began shifting in a very different direction. I have to admit I have never been happier.
NY: How do you practice beauty from the inside out?
EL: I eat pretty clean health wise because I feel your diet is a direct reflection of Y-O-U. If you are constantly eating unhealthy foods all day, every day it is going to show on the outside. Additionally, I recently began meditating and truthfully I would have never thought that I would one day be someone who meditates (laughs). It has helped me tremendously to truly be at peace and to take things one day at a time.
Practicing beauty from within does not revolve around hair and makeup but all the more so how you treat people with respect. I have stated several times that I have not had an argument in two years, and that says a lot. I try to put as much positive energy out into the universe and in turn the universe rewards me with having the ability to wholeheartedly be the best person that I can be. Especially now, I am trying to be the best mom, friend, daughter, and the list goes on. All of these elements create my internal beauty that exudes outward which makes me feel good and at my best.
NY: To summarize your life, if you had a theme song, what would it be?
EL: My sister said “Survivor” would be my theme song, and I would definitely have to agree with her on that.
NY: You have had to deal with a great amount of criticism since the beginning of your career how do you handle or combat the negativity and online haters?
EL: Honestly, I am a pro at tuning it all out. Truthfully speaking, regardless of who you are, you are going to be faced with negativity. C’mon people even criticize Oprah! At the end of the day, it comes with the territory and realistically not everyone is going to like you or agree with you all of the time. To that degree, it is also important and always best to be yourself because you will never be able to please everyone.
NY: In regard to Oprah, is there any great advice you received from her that you can share with us?
EL: I would not necessarily say she has given me advice. However, one of the things that I will forever remember was my first conversation with her. While speaking with Oprah, she thanked me for speaking my truth and being so transparent. It was a nice compliment that meant the world to me because you often wonder how does she really feel about everything or ask yourself if I am being a little too real. By her saying those words, it served as a confirmation for me to continue to be the person that I am.
NY: Being such a such a dynamic woman can you provide the most important steps to defining yourself as a business woman and solidifying your overall brand?
EL: As my life has continuously evolved and progressed in a different direction my goals and dreams have shifted as well. It is not the end of the world if you do not have everything figured out and it is also worth mentioning that sometimes you will be faced with obstacles that will cause you to take a step back in order to move forward with your brand.
Having said that, I am on a different show completely different from Basketball Wives. When I was on BBW, I had a lot of ideas but if you look back at a lot of those concepts they do not make sense within this moment of my life. For example, I had an online makeup brand, but I am now in the process of going into the lab because I want the cosmetic items to be more personal and custom made to fit who I truly am. Additionally, I am in the development stages of manufacturing my makeup line because I do not want to limit myself to it only being made available online. I am at a point in my career where I am beginning anew by revamping and rebuilding my personal brand.
NY: Can you share with us what is next for Evelyn Lozada?
EL: It is official, book number two is coming out! People are constantly tweeting me to ask when the next part of the Wives Association: Inner Circle will be released. This is your confirmation that it is on its way. Also, I am working on a new and improved makeup line.
Stay Connected with Evelyn Lozada:
Personal Website: http://evelynlozada.com
Don’t forget to tune into “Livin’ Lozada” returning with all-new episodes on Saturday, May 7th at 10p.m. on OWN: Oprah Winfrey Network.