Tia Mowry’s Trailblazing Paths to Motherhood, Career and Success
Posted On Jan 29, 2018
Whether you’re a 90’s baby or new millennium kid, Tia Mowry-Hardrict has definitely solidified her staple as a household name with an inveterate television presence on hit shows including the Twitches empire, The Game, Nick at Night’s Instant Mom, and Style Network’s reality series Tia & Tamera. However, the 37-year-old first gained notoriety by starring alongside her identical twin sister, Tamera Mowry, in the sitcom Sister, Sister. The dynamic duo dominated airwaves for six seasons, and for many of us, there is no denying the show is still very much our favorite pastime.
As cliché as it may (or may not) sound, she insisted “never giving up” has been the catalyst that has helped propel her career longevity as well as not allowing rejection or limitations to define her personal success. So what exactly are Tia’s secrets to success? She credits her parents for playing an instrumental role in her familial upbringing and her husband of 8 years, Cory Hardrict for providing her with unwavering support. Ultimately, the birth of their 4-year-old son Cree Hardrict was the match that set the flame for her to strategically build the blueprint of a lasting legacy.
The Hollywood star’s ability to effortlessly fuse the many roles of both her personal and professional stories truly serve as an indispensable source of inspiration, especially for young women. Recently her courageousness to tackle body shaming ideologies from social media critics further showcased her bravery in challenging the typical standard of beauty within this modern day digital era.
It was a delight to speak with the child star turned veteran media mogul. Our conversation was reminiscent of two friends engaging in a little girl time, full of laughs, intellect, empowerment, words of encouragement, and motivational jewels to help any of us maneuver through the journey of life. Additionally, we discussed her literary achievements, entrepreneurship endeavors, keys to building a happy marriage, as well as her must-have secret ingredient to include in any signature dish that will definitely elevate your culinary skills to first-class status.
New You: In a society extremely focused on appearance and often filled with rejection, how do you combat self-doubt?
Tia Mowry: Ah, I love that question! Number one, I think a lot of people need to see and know about this side of the business. It is not always glitz and glamour, and things are not handed to you at all. I often see it with my career, others careers, and with my husband’s career as well, that you will receive 100 rejections. After all of the rejections, you eventually land that one job!
You have to surround yourself with an amazing support system. For me, my husband, family, and friends are the foundation. When you are doubting yourself or not believing in your talents, you definitely need to surround yourself with people who will step in and be an extra shoulder to lift you up, and provide you with that extra push. I know it sounds cliché because you always hear people say this, but I also think ‘never giving up’ is another way to combat self-doubt. That is something that has always stayed with me because I study the greats.
What I mean by that is if you look at the people who have been in this business for a long time such as athletes, often times you hear about their success stories [I credit my husband with getting me hooked to this]. The people who are successful are not the people who have never failed, but they are the ones that kept trying and made the decision to never give up. One last thing I would like to add to that is to stay completely focused on your vision, goals, dreams, and never losing sight of the big picture.
NY: I know a few months ago you dealt with body shaming. What is your role in ending unrealistic body ideals & body shaming?
TM: I think my goal is to be an example. After all of the body shaming comments and ridicule I received, as a New Year’s resolution, I made a pact with myself to no longer have photoshop done on my body. At the end of the day, I think it begins with looking at your true self and embracing your flaws. I am very proud of who I am, but I honestly think I would be lying to say that I do not have any insecurities.
Recently I was talking with my makeup artist [who is amazing] about this and she said we now live in a society that is very obsessed with being perfect. She said makeup artists generally post pictures on IG, and it is extremely photoshopped to the point that the skin doesn’t even look real! She further added that one time she posted a picture of a girl who she believed had beautiful skin, and it was beyond amazing how much negativity she received. It really showed both me and her, how important it is for us to start being examples to truly embrace and love your body. I say all of that to say; that it is my role to continue inspiring and encouraging girls that we are all shapes and sizes, and we should love who we are!
NY: Did the advancement of technology inflate the ability to body shame? Do you find it more challenging now versus when you were a teenager growing up in the public eye?
TM: Although it has a lot of pros and cons to it, I am going to be quite honest with you, I think it’s definitely social media. The reason why I am particularly speaking of social media is because people would not see it as much and it wouldn’t be as tangible, in your face. Trust me, I see negative comments on my Instagram all day, every day.
To be honest with you, that is one of the reasons I worry about wanting to have a daughter growing up in this society. When you open up Instagram and take a look at the explorer page, it is all about boobs and butts! It is like high school all over again, except we are adults.
NY: For mothers who want to do it all, can you offer any parenting advice?
TM: I personally believe the number one parenting advice is to forgive yourself. We all have goals and aspirations to find balance and do it all, but the reality is there are going to be some days where you just can’t or won’t be able to do it all. And that’s okay! Someone actually gave me the advice that ‘If you look at your life as a pie, you have a slice of being a mom, being an entrepreneur, being a wife, and the list goes on.’ As women, we wear many different hats and because of this you have to understand if everything on your to-do list does not get completely checked off, then it’s totally fine.
I think the contrary or the opposite of that advice I would give to moms who want it all is to go for it. Just because you are a mom does not necessarily mean you have to give up on your goals and your aspirations in life. It does not mean you have to give up on you! One of these days, the kids are going to grow up and leave the nest and at that point what are you going to do then? What I have learned from my husband is, where there is a will, there is always a way. It may not be an exact science to the right or left, but guess what, you can go up, down, or you can come in at a 90-degree angle (laughs). Don’t ever give up. Find a way!
NY: How do you keep the sparks alive with your partner after having a child(ren)?
TM: Similar to what my husband and I are doing right now, taking a romantic stroll down the street on our block. You make quality time for each other, and it can be something as simple as walking down the street holding hands. Sometimes the simple things are the best.
NY: With both you and your husband having successful careers within the industry what would you say are the three keys to building a happy marriage? TM: Hmmm…that is another good one! I would have to say quality time, forgiveness, and communication. If you are going to be with someone for the long haul, trust and believe, one of you is going to say something that you didn’t necessarily mean because we are human. Although communication is a very cliché word, it is necessary and so true. Regardless of what you are going through or what is on your mind, communication is very important. Unfortunately, when people tend to think about communication they only think of the negatives. By being vocal about what he/she did or did not do but it truly goes both ways. You should also communicate with your partner about the positive things such as how well they are doing. Give your partner praise on what they are doing right and don’t always talk about or discuss what they need to work on.
NY: Switching gears, Congratulations on, “Tia Mowry at Home” your show on the Cooking Channel! Can you let us know your top cooking tips for both busy men and women? TM: One thing to do is to spell out a plan. Just take one day out of the week to purchase fresh produce that is versatile. Also, stock up on garlic, onions, celery, and carrots because if you have those four key ingredients, then you can pretty much throw down and make anything in your kitchen. Along with loading up on items that are already cut, diced, or minced. What I find takes most of the time is the actual prepping stage because the cooking itself does not take long. Keep in mind that you don’t have to always make large meals. If you create a great salad and grill a few pieces of salmon [grilling salmon only takes five minutes on each side] then you have made dinner in less than 15 minutes.
NY: What is one of your must-have secret ingredients you like to include in your signature dishes?
TM: Herbes de Provence! It is a collection of French dried herbs/spices. I literally season it on everything because I love it, and it is great for poultry and great for vegetables as well.
NY: This question is twofold. How long have you been in the kitchen and where did you learn to cook?
TM: I learned from observing and being in the kitchen with my mom and dad. They both grew up cooking and in turn, I grew up watching them cook in the kitchen. I really don’t have any memories of takeout it was always a cooked meal unless we had pizza. I don’t know why, but it has always been fun for me and still is. I absolutely love it [cooking]!
NY: With many of the ‘90s shows making a comeback such as Gilmore Girls and Fuller House, would you be open to doing a Sister, Sister reboot?
TM: Honestly, I think it all depends on the timing. It just depends on what both my sister and I have going on at that particular time. Right now we are extremely busy completing various projects, but never say never.
NY: What is the biggest misconception people have about twins, especially between you and your sister [Tamera]?
TM: I think one of the biggest misconceptions people tend to have about us is that we do everything together, and we don’t have our own lives. A lot of times if it’s just me out and about by myself they [people] will say, “Hi Tia & Tamera.” My response is usually, “Whoa, wait a minute!” (laughs) They also say it to my sister as well.
NY: Best advice you and your sister have given each other?
TM: Oh, that is actually a really great question! A piece of advice my sister and I have given each other is, “at the end of the day it always comes down to family. Staying true to who you are and not allowing this business to define who you are.”
NY: While growing up in the spotlight, do you credit anyone with keeping you on the right path in your younger years?
TM: Yes, definitely my mother and father. My parents worked and still work extremely hard to teach their children about discipline, hardwork, character, and integrity. At the end of the day, the business was just a job, and they were not fazed by any of it. Don’t get me wrong, they were happy that their kids were successful and pursuing their passions and doing what they loved, but it was not their be-all and end-all. They really instilled in us that despite your success, it’s all about how you treat people that matters the most.
NY: Can you share with us what you have lined up for the spring or this upcoming year?
TM: I am working on quite a few projects that I actually can’t announce right now, but in a few weeks there will be an announcement. However, I can tell you that I am doing some really, really cool things within the food space that I am very excited about.
Connect with Tia Mowry:
body shamingCelebrity MarriageCooking ChannelCory HardrictInstant MomTamera MowryThe GameTia Mowry