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Do Good Girls Finish Last?

By Dontaira Terrell
Posted On Jun 13, 2016
Do Good Girls Finish Last?

Always the single friend? Constantly unlucky in the love department? Either way, you know you are a good woman who seems to always end up with the short end of the stick. You follow the rules, you are constantly there for others, you’re intelligent and you take pride in achieving career success. All of your positive attributes outweigh your flaws any day but oddly enough, when it comes to finding your soulmate it seems as though love is hiding from you.

So the question remains, why do good women seem to excel in all areas of their life except the love department? Unfortunately, good girls, and for what it is worth, good guys, have the tendency to choose egotistical and ungrateful mates. Genuine efforts often go unnoticed, the love is taken for granted, and the affection is unappreciated. Usually, when dealing with people stuck in their selfish ways, it leads you down a road of disappointments and empty promises.

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Photo Credit: Shutter Stock

It is tough to think a certain way or behave in a particular manner, especially when you seem to fall short Every. Single. Time. Walking in the shoes of a good woman is no easy task. You do everything in your power that society says a good woman “should” or is “supposed” to do but you continually end up longing for a secure, solid, and sacred partnership.

After so long, the perfect woman begins to question the characteristics that make up her unique being. Sometimes, leading down a path of shattering her good girl behavior. Unfortunately, tossing away your good girl morals and values is not the solution. The reality is, it causes things to become more difficult in your quest for conquering true love.

Contradicting images of ignominious women sustaining a serious courtship or marrying before you do can become a bit disheartening and easily sway your rational. At the end of the day, you have to be willing to look at the big picture. In time, your knight in shining armor will come to the rescue and realize what a gem and one-of-a-kind treasure you truly are.

Keep your head high and standards even higher. Stay true to your good girl ways because I assure you there is someone out there (right now) that is taking heed of your intelligence, valuable characteristics, and assets that past lovers in your life were too blind to see. Be patient because as the supreme diva Diana Ross sings effortlessly, “you can’t hurry love.” Regardless of the common belief, good girls don’t always finish last because anything worth having is worth waiting for.