Get Over Your Next Bad Breakup With Four Simple Steps
Posted On May 12, 2016
“We need to talk” is the beginning to the end of every love story.
Whether you’re the dumper or the dumpee, the end to a long-term relationship, a short whirlwind romance, or even a friends-with-benefits arrangement will always leave you feeling empty.
Breakups will almost always result in continuous nights of lying in bed with a tub full of ice cream and a face filled with tears. Initially, it’s easy to talk to your friends about it while planning to slash your ex’s tires, but then it comes to a point where your friends are all tired of hearing about how sad you are and hit you with those three dreaded words:
“Get over it.”
Sure, you’ve thought about just moving on but that’s always easier said than done. Nonetheless, there are still some steps you can take to ease the blow of a bad breakup. The thing is, in the moment of agony, you’ll never think you’ll make it through. I get it, you invested time in a relationship that you thought would last a lifetime only to find out it had an expiration date. But, there’s always a silver lining. It’s definitely possible to just “get over it” and here’s how:
1) Remove them from all your social media accounts
Let’s be real here. As much as you may think you’re strong enough to handle casually seeing your ex while scrolling through your Instagram feed, it may not be the best idea. Until you’re at the point where you’ve fully come to terms with the breakup, please refrain from liking his pictures and repeatedly watching his snap stories. You want to know why? Because the minute you see them having a good time with someone else, you’ll literally want to curl up under a rock and stay there. For good.
2) You don’t have to stay friends
I’m not sure why so many people think it’s the polite thing to do to end every breakup by saying “let’s still be friends,” but it’s just not possible. At least not initially. After a breakup you need time to meditate, reflect, and mourn the relationship in your own way, by yourself. Being in contact with your ex will only confuse your emotions and allow you to hold on to something that just isn’t there anymore. It’s totally fine to distance yourself from your ex for a while until you’ve completely moved on.
3) Don’t try to win him back
As tempting as it may be to try and convince your ex of all the reasons you should still be together, this will never end well. Because even if you do get them back, it will be because of manipulation as opposed to a genuine inclination. Rather than seeking to win them back, try and win yourself back. Take the time to re-evaluate your choices and actions in order to avoid making the same mistakes again. Remember this: It’s never your job to make your partner see what they have in you.
4) Get active
One of the main reasons why it’s so hard to move on after a breakup is because we throw ourselves an ongoing series of pity parties which only make things worse. Instead of blaming yourself for all the things you did that contributed to the breakup, get up and get active! Take daily walks, find a gym routine, eat regularly and healthy, and find a hobby to occupy your time. You’ll be surprised how much you won’t think about your ex when you have a full to-do list on your plate.
Any tips you’d like to add to the list? We’d love to hear them!
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