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5 Signs of a False Soul Mate

By Julie Fink
Posted On Mar 28, 2016
5 Signs of a False Soul Mate

“True love is like ghosts, which everyone talks about and few have seen.”
~Francois de La Rochefoucauld, poet


A false soul mate is someone you meet along the way; they seem to be ‘the one’ but really only serves as a catalyst for your own spiritual growth. Nine times out of ten you think you are ready to settle down, but the Universe thinks differently. This is when you find yourself on the dating-go-round. But these cycles of men, however exhausting it may be, are put in your path to help you grow and to show you valuable lessons you need to learn. These relationships are needed to prepare you for the meeting of your true soul mate, where you are elevated into a lifelong bond with your true match.

Unfortunately, there are some who fall for the wrong ones, the ones that were supposed to be strictly dating-go-round guys. These are the guys who you are energetically matched with but will ultimately fail to serve you at the highest level. In some cases, these relationships harm you and may even set you back in life. Meeting your false soul mate can be tricky but here are some sure fire signs that this guy isn’t a lifer.


The true nature of a soul mate relationship is not as much physical as it is spiritual. So if you’re sexual energy is off the chain and you both are obsessing over doing the naked dance 24/7, then it’s probably a false soul mate. Having great sexual chemistry is as wonderful as having soul chemistry, the only difference is, sexually based connections aren’t ones that last.

Emotional Trainwreck

Your true soul mate is your asset. Together, you feel like two children playing and creating together, lifting each other to reach your highest heights, and being each other’s cheerleaders.

Your false soul mate is your deficit and will leave you feeling emotionally drained, disoriented, and tired. If you are living on a constant battleground with your beau, it’s probably because he’s a false soul mate.


When engaged with a false soul mate you will feel empty when the other is not around. There is an incessant need to always be with each other accompanied by a longing, a loneliness, a lack of self-love and self-worth. Then, either he or you will lead to an obsessive behavioral pattern to compensate for the feeling of low self-esteem.

Obsessing is something we are guilty of, but when you are with your true soul mate, there is no need to obsess because the energetic exchange between the two of you is a match. Social media stalking is no longer needed, and all crazy-face behavioral antics such as iPhone creeping will cease to exist.

There’s Always That One Thing 

A false soul mate will be emotionally blocking forward movement within the relationship. Sometimes this is you and sometimes this is him. There is always that one thing that you can’t seem to get past. Putting up walls to their inner being is something you or he will subconsciously do so that neither of you can see who you really are. A true love and soul mate will share absolutely everything with you.

Peace Out, It’s Been Real

This should be the clearest sign that you’re with a false soul mate. After experiencing the good the bad, and the ugly, they are no longer around. No texts, no calls, no FB likes on the usual likable posts, nothing. The false soul mate has siphoned the energy needed and is moving on, leaving you behind like a sad country western song. Do not fret, your true match is ready and waiting on the horizon.


I hope you aren’t sitting there, sadly day dreaming about the one that got away or the one you are currently with who might have check boxed all the above. These false soul mate relationships are so important because without any measurable spiritual progress, you’ll never meet your true love.

Whether you come across a true or false soul mate, they are soul mates nonetheless and are there to help you grow. But it’s up to you to recognize the signs, open your eyes to the truth, and be thankful for how that person has served your life. In the end, a false soul mate will be there for a reason or a season while the true soul mate will be there for life.

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