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How to Heal a Broken Heart

By Dontaira Terrell
Posted On Feb 16, 2016
How to Heal a Broken Heart


Coming to terms with the ending of a relationship is no easy task. Just think about it, something that was once a pivotal moment in our lives is now over and done with. The pain continuously runs deep and once the reality of everything begins to sit in, it definitely is a tough pill to swallow.  What’s worse is carrying the emotional baggage of internal turmoil, regrets and bitterness due to the breakup.

Whether it is a love affair or friendship the ending of any type of relationship has a way of pulling at our heartstrings. Not to mention, it takes a toll on our mental psyche. Our consciousness sometimes can’t comprehend what has happened, so many “what if’s,” a whole lot of unanswered questions and a myriad of lingering thoughts.

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Photo Credit: Shutter Stock

Seriously, it’s like our mind is playing tricks on us but unfortunately at one point or another each of us has to experience some kind of heartbreak in order to learn the value of true love.

Not all relationships end on rough terms but, generally speaking, many of them do. For this reason, it’s essential to close one chapter before opening another. Accepting the “what is” instead of the “what could have been” is the icing on the cake to help you move forward towards new beginnings.

Don’t worry, if you’re having a tough time letting go, trust and believe you’re not the only one. Hopefully, these few tips will help bring you one step closer to tying up any loose ends, making peace with unresolved issues as well as finding the hidden blessings despite the pain.

Take Time

Before moving on to the next one allow yourself time to fully heal by experiencing the inevitable emotional cycle. Push through the pain; navigate through the hurt and most importantly, be patient with yourself because the feelings won’t dissipate overnight.


One of the hardest things to do is to forgive the person who left you out in the cold. Don’t get me wrong, it’s tough to overcome disappointment but through the power of forgiveness, you’ll triumph in the end.

Holding Back The Years

Do yourself a favor and cut all ties with your ex. Keeping in contact does not mend your broken heart. It only adds fuel to the fire because you’re still holding on to the illusion of what was.

Don’t Forget About You

It’s important not to allow the inquisitive thoughts running rampant in your mind to get the best of you. Sitting home in sorrow is not the solution. Surround yourself with good people that can serve as a listening ear, enjoy a day of catering to your needs or go out for a night on the town and live it up!

Learn The Lesson

Although breakups are confusing and disheartening, there is a lesson to be learned in all of this. You haven’t found closure until you’re able to understand and accept the teachings of the failed relationship.


With these tips we’re sure you’ll finally be able to put the past exactly where it belongs. Although we would love to receive definitive answers and get down to the bottom of things with our previous lover, it’s safe to say that the majority of the time it just doesn’t happen this way. Ultimately, the best closure comes from within. We all deserve inner peace, happiness and a sense of finality. By gaining closure it allows you to move into the future towards a successful relationship with the right person.