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How to Work the Flirt

By Dontaira Terrell
Posted On Feb 12, 2016
How to Work the Flirt

A guy you’ve been crushin’ on finally makes his move but what do you do? If you’re anything like me then you’re probably clueless when it comes to the basic fundamentals of flirting. My friends often tease me when it comes to the rules of the game. If a guy looks my way, instantly I can hear the doomed sound of the organs playing in the background, as this is going to go left very quickly.

Do I wink? Smile? Look around aimlessly? Stare in his direction or wand my hair with my fingers in a playful manner? This is serious business, people! If or when he does finally make his way over—then what? Don’t worry, because it’s time to take this situation from 0 to 100, real quick. With that said, here are some tips to help you successfully engage in stimulating conversation and master the art of flirtation.

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  • Eye-to-eye: If you see someone of interest from across the room make eye contact in order to garner his attention, before drawing him in with your killer smile! Chances are if your eyes are wandering he’s going to assume that you’re uninterested and keep it movin’.
  • Body Language: Being comfortable in your own skin speaks volumes and plays a major factor in the type of men that you will attract. Keep in mind, you should be confident every day and not just to attract someone of the opposite sex. Not to mention, confidence is the best accessory you’ll ever wear.
  • Keep it cute: It’s great to have long, intense, mind-blowing conversation but as a precaution, the initial one-on-one encounter should be short and sweet, staying away from controversial topics such as religion and politics. Too much talking might scare him away but to reel him in, maintain your mystique and keep em’ guessing. It’s the best way to leave him yearning for more, wanting, hoping, and wishing to learn all about you.
  • Act like a lady: When it comes to flirting, playful mannerisms are meant to charm your future boo (yes, we’re claiming him in advance). Jokes and innocent touching are cool but at the same time, be sure not to touch him in the wrong places because you don’t want to give off the wrong impression. (refers back to the previous: “Keep it Cute”).
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Photo Credit: Shutter Stock

There’s no right or wrong way to the art of flirtation. Some people are naturals at this game whereas others not so much. The last golden rule is to get up and at ‘em! Practice makes perfect and besides, your ideal dream guy isn’t going to come to you at home while you’re sitting on the couch. You have to go out there and give the dating scene a whirl.  Don’t be afraid, if you see someone that maybe of interest to you, zero in and go for it. Hopefully, sparks will start flying and love will blossom but if that doesn’t happen, in the meantime just lighten up and have fun!