Tips to Help You Bounce Back on the Dating Scene

By Dontaira Terrell
Posted On Jan 28, 2016
Tips to Help You Bounce Back on the Dating Scene

Recently divorced? Getting over a bad breakup? Been single far too long? Whatever the case may be, you’re finally ready to mingle. So, now it’s time to get back in the game! Whether it’s been two months or three years the dating scene can be scary and a little intimidating. It can also be exciting, fun and exhausting at the same time but don’t let it deter you. Check out these six tips that are sure to help make your dating experience one for the books! If you’re ready to get your groove back, then let the fun begin!

Don’t Lower Your Standards: Regardless of the amount of time you’ve been away from the dating scene, you have every right to be picky! Yes, you need all the practice you can get but let’s be real, every guy who shows a little interest is not worth your time or energy. Weed out the good from the bad and be totally honest with yourself. Queen Elsa said it best if you don’t envision a future with them, “Let it go, let it goooo!”

Keep an Open Mind: Jumping back into the swing of things can definitely trigger past memories. Try not to go into the dating scene with a negative view by searching for faults or creating constant comparisons to your ex. If you ask me, it’s a disaster waiting to happen! Instead, keep an open mind and don’t rush into judgment because contrary to popular opinion, “All guys are NOT the same.”

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Don’t Dwell on the Past: Getting back into the groove after the ending of a relationship can be extremely tough. It can also be very tempting to share details of your previous love affair. If you find the need to discuss details of your ex-boo during dinner dates, then you’re probably not ready to begin dating again.

Imagine, if the tables were turned. Would you want to hear everything good or bad about his former lover? If you feel the need to vent, he shouldn’t be the one who has to listen. Instead, call up your girlfriends and unleash all of your frustrations.

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Photo Credit: Shutter Stock

Keep it Cute: Overindulging in alcohol on the first date is a definite no-no because first impressions are everything.  Despite what we may believe, alcohol indeed alters our behavior. Just remember, dating is full of unexpected possibilities and has the potential to lead to something wonderful. Don’t ruin your chances because of possible drunken behavior you’ll most likely regret the next day.

Take it Slow: Dating can consist of a myriad of mixed emotions.  If you find yourself going on dates with a lot of Mr. Wrongs no need to get yourself down. Try to avoid setting unrealistic standards or putting yourself on a dating timeline to meet that special someone. Just let it flow and allow things to happen organically.

Keep it 100: First and foremost, stay loyal to your beautiful being and authentic self! The man who is worthy will take notice and accept you wholeheartedly, flaws and all. This is the most important dating tip because you shouldn’t have to change who you are in order to pique someone’s interest. Pretending to be someone you’re not will eventually become tiresome. Not to mention the REAL you will show its true colors in due time.