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Your Dating Disaster Toolkit

By Dontaira Terrell
Posted On Apr 04, 2016
Your Dating Disaster Toolkit

You know the date’s where 30 seconds seem like an eternity and you’d much rather run for the nearest exit. They are better known as the dates from H-E-L-L, and we have all experienced a few dating disasters. So how do you make the most out of an outwardly horrible experience? Don’t worry. We’ve put together a few tips to hopefully help you turn your bad date around into something that is possibly worthwhile!

Ask Questions– Believe it or not most, if not everyone loves to talk about themselves! If you’re uncertain whether or not your date is having a good time start asking open-ended questions about their hobbies. Not only will this show you are taking a genuine interest in getting to know them better, but it’ll definitely spruce things up!

Change of Scenery- Sometimes when a date isn’t going so well it may be contributed to the current environment. For instance, how do you connect with your date if you are in a loud environment and can barely hear each other speak? If this is the case, it’s best to pick up the date and head to a new location.

Keep Your Phones Tucked Away- Constantly playing on your phone definitely sends off a rude vibe that can be taken as being inconsiderate and very uninterested. Make a pact with your date that unless it’s an absolute emergency, no cell phones! Not only does this serve as a common courtesy for the both of you, but it also allows you to focus only on each other instead of the crazy Instagram picture your friend recently posted.

Photo Credit: Shutter Stock
Photo Credit: Shutter Stock

Game Changer- Conversation topics can be a hit or miss when getting comfortable with your date. Discussing certain topics that you know very little about can potentially leave both of you in silence. Taking the initiative to change up the flow of the topics discussed will, in fact, change the mood as well as the impression that was initially given off.

Make the Best of it- If you have been stood up, what do you do? The best way to deal with this is to just play it cool. You’ve put so much time and effort into looking your best so why not flaunt it! No need to go home and cry yourself a river. Besides, it’s his loss not yours. So, head over to the bar, order a cocktail, and mix and mingle. You never know, you might just find your next boo! (wink, wink)

Be Yourself- Dating can be both intimidating and overwhelming. Sometimes the butterflies kick in and we don’t know how to act! However, the best way to act is yourself. Showcasing a false persona is tiresome and usually only leads to an awful dating experience. In reality, how long can you pretend and continue to put on a charade? Trust us, your date can sense that you’re not being yourself making both him and the situation uncomfortable.

Reframe Your Mind- Expectations lead to disappointment so go out there with an open mind! If it doesn’t’ work out, keep it movin’ to the next. Dating is all about improving along the way and learning what you like or dislike in a potential partner. Just enjoy the moment and take it for what it is.

Photo Credit: Shutter Stock
Photo Credit: Shutter Stock

Honesty is the Best Policy- Regardless of how hard you’ve tried to make the date work it’s best to be upfront. There’s no need to string the guy along along. If it is forced chemistry, no commonalties, or clash of personalities, be honest.  It will also prove to be a weight lifted off your shoulder.

Set a Deadline- Don’t feel guilty about ending it early just make sure it’s done in a considerate and respectful manner. Telling him you’re heading to the restroom and you’ll be right back, only never to return is not cool. [Trust me, I know this firsthand because it has happened to me]. If a date is proving to be a complete bust, set a deadline to make a classy exit.